Admit it, we all get so down sometimes that it’s hard to motivate. It happens to the best of us. When sadness hits you hard, it can be very debilitating. Without trying to simplify what might become a very complicated emotional one situation (with all due respect to your feelings), I’d like to suggest some inexpensive pick-me-ups, for those times when You just don’t have the luxury of lying in bed all day with a box of tissues, watching old, tear-jerking movies.
When I get slammed with a bad case of blues, I try to remember something I learned a long time ago. generally proved correct. Feelings are not facts. Just because you feel something is like that, it doesn’t work CORRECT. You may believe that you feel a terrible truth about yourself, but what seems certain is inside you the moment of vulnerability may seem silly later on. Try not to jump to big conclusions when you’re not feeling it the best.
I find cooking very relaxing. Call me crazy, but there’s something so relaxing about stirring a pot of soup or roast chicken. For you vegetarians out there, how about the zen of chopping and grilling vegetables? Or Experimenting with a new ketchup recipe? Developing a new omelet filling from leftovers in the fridge? The possibilities are endless. You can nourish your body and soul at the same time…
When I start to feel overwhelmed by life, and my motivation starts to drop, the first thing I usually do is orderly environment. I threw my clothes everywhere, papers started piling up, and plates started piling up piled up in the sink. I recently decided that if the weight of the world got too heavy and I felt tempted to just let everything around me fall to pieces, at least I’ll make sure to clean my kitchen and bathroom.
Cleaning : I know this may be difficult for some of you, but there is joy in seeing the mess, or even a little bit part of the chaos, disappeared. Even if the prospect of cleaning my entire house just blows my circuits, at least I can maintain a small circle of cleanliness and sanity. I’ve found that expends the energy it takes to do those little things things sometimes start a positive momentum that leads to other constructive endeavors!
I absolutely LOVE the feeling of the warm water on my hands when I do the dishes. What’s more, I like the way I am the sink is visible when empty and clean. It can get me so excited, I will be inspired to clean my toilet. And further thing you know, I mopped the floors, washed… it was like a chain reaction! Seriously, the prospects are clear the surfaces around me, drawers full of folded clothes – it can be intoxicating…
I often tell my son, “Do the things you need to do first, then you can do the things you want to do.” In other words, take care of business! Then you can indulge yourself with the things you want. It’s important to get your free time, and reward yourself for your hard work. You can trick yourself into taking on a lot of unpleasant but necessary tasks if you are know there’s something wonderful waiting for you when they’re done. Give it a try, one task, one reward at a time, and
see if it works for you.
I also take pleasure in completing old projects. My mom used to be someone who would procrastinate for a long time time. After she died, I found unfinished embroidery in one of her drawers that she had started decades ago before, and I decided to finish it. What a cathartic experience it turned out to be! I have that part embroidery hangs in my living room, and from time to time I look at it and contemplate the sense of completion and the closure it has brought to me.
Do you feel a theme here? The main idea behind all this advice is to control the little things its within your power to change, keep it small, and try and grow yourself in the process. I do not recommend expensive vacations or material purchases, nor do I suggest grand escapes from everyday life. While this is also possible fun, they ultimately don’t give us a sense of inner peace or empowerment.
The funny thing is, my sadness often comes in waves. I’ve found that if I can distract myself with something constructive or productive activity long enough, soon the next wave of excitement arrives unexpectedly, and I can get started breathe deeply again.
Even when I’m contemplating throwing a serious pity party, I’m probably happy to curl up with a good book, or turn around in one of my favorite movies. And yes, I might even need a box of tissues.