In a lot of movies, you see men trying to impress women by buying flowers, driving them around in fancy cars, spending lots of money on dates, trying to be really “romantic,” and so on. These guys often do this with girls they barely know.
Despite what Hollywood may try to teach you, impressing a girl isn’t done by bribing a girl to like you, or by giving her outrageous compliments. It will only make you appear needy and desperate.
So what should you do to really impress a girl and make her smitten with you?
Strong and Confident
When I started out, spending money to impress a girl rarely worked. The truth is, sometimes it will work, but the girls who will like you for this, will be the ones who will stick around for your money, and only for your money.
Let me tell you about the first, perhaps the most important thing that attracts women to men: it’s self-confidence. Women, by nature, are attracted to men who are strong and confident. There are many reasons for that, but the most important thing right now is that you need to build up the confidence to attract women.
There are many explanations and examples for confident behavior. It begins with your tone of voice and body language, and ends with the way you treat and act around women.
Have you changed your behavior around women, in an effort to come across as a nice guy? Well, nice guy syndrome is the opposite of attractive.
When you see a woman – stick with the same confident, masculine demeanor you always have. Don’t treat women in any special way, talk to her like you would anyone else, and allow yourself to say whatever you feel – including teasing her a little. That will be your first step in impressing him.
Social and Leadership Skills
So I mentioned the huge role confidence plays in building attractiveness. But confidence isn’t the only masculine trait that attracts women. There are more of them.
Let’s talk about social skills. Have you seen how women react when they see a celebrity near them? Lots of girls can be really crazy. A girl can become a fan of a guy she’s never met, simply because a lot of people know him. Such is the power of what is called “social proof”.
Women are very attracted to men who are good at talking to other people. Yang is a natural leader and is always surrounded by others.
When a girl sees you talking to people, being the center of attention, even when you just mention the fact that you have a lot of friends – it intrigues her instantly. Women find it especially impressive.
If you’re at a particular club or event, be seen talking to a lot of different people, and every woman will want to meet you. If you’re dating a girl, just add; social skills into your stories.
Yes, literally, mention the fact that you have lots of friends, that you enjoy meeting new people, that you are good at managing your social circle. Remember – this is very impressive for women.
Not Taking Yourself Too Seriously
Other behaviors you can use to impress women are related to self-confidence and a good sense of humor.
Simple words – don’t take yourself too seriously. A common thing for men to do, is to never mention anything negative about themselves. Men on first dates often sound like the most successful, intelligent, and wealthy men in the world.
However, to actually attract women, you have to do the opposite. Women actually like men who are a little sensitive. They feel that when a man reveals his flaws, it makes him even more attractive.
You can also use a type of humor called “self-deprecating” humor, which means you laugh at yourself. I often tell girls – “I’m so stupid. I don’t understand why you are talking to me. – And guess what? Women love it.
What’s More Impressive?
There are many other traits and ways of speaking and acting that impress women. But let’s go back to the beginning of this post.
Most men try to spend money on women, flattering and complimenting them excessively; They try to convince women to like them.
In the end, most women want to fall in love – and this love is often an impossible love.
But nothing really impressive. What really impresses women are men who are masculine, confident, and “just being themselves.” So stop thinking about impressing him. Be a man and learn how to attract and talk to women.
Sarah Williams is a lifestyle writer specializing in men’s dating advice. Its mission is to help busy men of all ages create sexier, stronger, more discovering bodies and minds true fulfillment in social interaction. Connect with Sarah on Wingman Magazine