Often in our life we come across situations that we like the least. It annoys, frustrates, and boils our blood to raging Fahrenheit levels. Our emotions explode like a volcano, eyes crinkle, cute faces turn hideous and we feel like crushing and screaming at that moment. There is a rush of adrenaline that goes out of control because there is a burst of abstraction when we are annoyed with someone or something.
And it’s all the result of anger. This psychological lava erupts every time we are offended, abused, rejected, and it comes as a reaction of revenge. This is generally referred to as emotional anger when something undesirable or unpleasant event happens to us. It can come out in a verbal or physical form. Expression of anger can vary on different individual characteristics. It may be mild, sudden or very loud. There is no specific reason that can trigger anger problems. It can be triggered for various reasons like personal, professional, ambient, social or sometimes habit.
In general clinical psychology terms, anger is a method of expressing your displeasure. It can be expressed in constructive and destructive ways. They are the fundamental emotions that allow us to survive as a species. When a baby screams because it is hungry, too hot or too cold, it shows its anger. These antagonistic emotions are displayed when our needs are not met.
Anger can be used in positive ways such as raising your voice against unfair actions, other people’s stupid behavior, or stopping an argument between two parties with the help of your aggression. But this aggressive behavior can lead to outrageous consequences, both verbal and physical. Verbally we scream and snap, babble offensively and sometimes abuse someone, as badly as we have no control over us at the time and we also don’t realize what exactly we are doing. We unknowingly or intentionally hurt someone’s sentiments and feelings so that it completely ruins your entire relationship sometimes making it very hard to work things out again.
But the worst part comes when it comes down to physical anger. It is one of the deadliest aspects of anger. While verbal tantrums can still be reversed, physical violence during a fit of rage can have dire consequences. In such conditions you can endanger others as well as yourself. It can lead to horrific acts such as domestic violence, forced sexual assault, thrashing others or even killing someone or oneself in anger.
That type of anger can leave lifelong scars on the victim of the anger or even on the person who is the source of this anger, mentally and physically. This not only negatively affects the person at the root of the anger but also the environment. It was not only detrimental to him, but those around him especially the ones who were suffering from this tremendous suffering.
Controlling anger is not an easy task, but with the right counseling it can be contained and the art of controlling anger. The key is to understand the problem areas that trigger anger problems. As if not noticed, it can have a very bad impact. For example, in cases of domestic violence it only affects the spouse but also the children in the household. In turn, regular bickering between parents can harm a child’s mental development and personality in a major way, directly and indirectly.
So it becomes very important to know the pressure points which in turn pull on your lid. To control your anger and save yourself from the consequences, counseling can be very helpful. The fundamentals of counseling are identifying and understanding the symptoms that trigger anger. The second is seeing our own unhealthy beliefs as emotionally involved with our anger, realizing how anger affects our close relationships, displaying anger only when necessary and also not holding it back so much that it leads to other psychological problems, by using anger as a positive tool rather than a weapon damage. Like. It is said, “Charity begins at home”, one must try some basic things to avoid and control anger before it becomes destructive.
Help calm aggressive behavior, use meditation and other breathing exercises for self-control. With proper Psychology & Psychiatry treatment, if not fully controlled it can be widely taken advantage of.