The people meet, they fall in love and, as the story tells, they live happily ever after. This may have worked for Cinderella and Snow White but in most of the cases, reality strikes and falling in love takes a toll on it. The truth is that it was meant to be this way, by design. When one plus one becomes two they become something new and this new must now fall in love again and again.
Falling in Love may be the first step to a relationship, but it is not the most challenging. To be and to remain is the most courageous and extraordinary part of the journey. While each person is unique and therefore every relationship cannot be compared to any other, there are some basic principles that must be held so that when the road between falling in love and being in love comes, we can be reminded of the importance of being together.
Here are 5 secrets to resetting a relationship into Love which means self respect, unconditional acceptance, forgiveness, connection and curiosity.
1 – Self-Esteem
A relationship that needs resetting has to start over everything about your life: YOU. Love is always present but it seeks an anchor from which it can draw more of its goodness. This anchor is nothing more, but nothing less than yourself knowing the value of your inner genius.
Far from calling for egocentricity and narcissism, this is the most essential of all the essences of Love. Dive into yourself and think about the beauty of yourself from your soul. Fall back in love with the Truth that inhabits your being and let it be what you want to share with others.
2 – Unconditional Acceptance
When self-esteem sinks, one day, it invites the ego to accept existence as a whole. Whether it is oneself or someone else, acceptance is essential so that Love can be re-experienced as two lovers who have just met and can sift through the “least” only to reveal the “great”. This is the highest practice of compassion and kindness.
This is a space where projection and reflection are the test. Love sees beyond the “mistakes”, the mistakes, the “wrong” and especially the “misunderstood”. Learn to accept oneself and others as a whole. Humans are very simple yet very complex creatures and somehow, we, can’t expect any people become perfect because we ourselves know that we are not perfect Open to differences, accept differences, believe in unity.
3 – Forgiveness
Moments that call for intense resetting are moments that demand a deep sense of forgiveness. Letting go of what isn’t important and holding on to what is really, really, really important in a relationship is the main focus of period return.
As you re-evaluate your relationship, take a moment to reflect on the truths that created them and the perceptions that brought them down. Separate the unimportant from the elements. Sometimes it takes a new pair of eyes to see back what we have forgotten.
4 – Connection
Beyond silly disagreements or boring routines that don’t reflect Love or Life itself, there is a sense of connectedness. This link is sacred. It binds souls to other souls and strengthens life through an invisible web.
This web becomes the foundation upon which Love anchors, expands, and shines. Take time to reset your connection to yourself through Your Truth and connect with your loved ones on the same level. Let it be more than just a story but a legend of friendship.
5 – Curiosity
It comes in at the fifth element on this list but is essential to reset Love as its original source. Resetting Love means switching the mind to a new way of perception in the same place. Curiosity is the engine behind the renewed search for Love and the only fuel that ensures it lasts.
Keep it fresh, keep it simple. Stay alive. Instill your childlike spirit in your relationship. He fears nothing, he challenges the unknown and he is always finding new ways to play and experience. Love needs space to move and curiosity expands the space for that.
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